How to guide your human by Dude the horse – Part 1

Fall of my 22nd year – written in “horse time”

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Me with my human Ann.

Hi I’m B.A. Dude, Jr., Dude for short.  I’m a 22 year old Appaloosa.  I chose my current family in Minnesota (Ann and her daughters) when  I was 4 years old.  I helped all of them learn to take care of horses and learn to ride.   I was Ann’s very first coaching horse-partner when she was just learning to trust us horses to guide the coaching process with a human.  I made her jaw drop a few times with my responses with her clients and I was a catalyst for moving her forward as an equine-guided coach.   When I was 11 years old I became a lesson horse at Shadow Creek Stable.   I loved being a lesson horse and seeing the people, especially kids grow and change.  As you can see, I’m a teacher and love that role.

This is my story of how my move from Shadow Creek Stable to Klein Farm transpired.  Humans seem to think they are in charge and usually think we horses don’t have feelings or needs, and we can’t have any say in how things go because we can’t speak English.  That is absolutely not true!  My human, Ann (I trained her well), seemed open to another way, so I guided the entire process (even though I let her thing she was making it happen most of the time!)

I have let Ann organize these thoughts into three parts or blogs, so they are easier for you to understand.  This one is time leading up to the actual move.

Mid-summer:  Ann talked to me to today about the possibility of moving to live close to where she lives now.  She said we could spend more time together because I’d be closer to her and we could work together like we did many years ago when I first partnered with her in equine-guided coaching.   She told me about the Klein Farm and the three horses who live there now; Sis, the 32 year old lead mare, Cosmo, the younger mare and Victor, the Arabian gelding.  She thinks I’ll like Chris and Jeanne too, the owners of the farm.  I was skeptical but I told her I’d consider it.

Late summer sometime: Jeanne and Ann talked about next steps and decided to have Jenny Gott, animal communicator, talk with me.  (Actually, Sis planted that seed of guidance).  Jenny asked questions from Ann, but I ran the conversation.  I told her four key things:

  1. I’m ready for a new experience for helping people in a new way and I look forward to doing it at a whole new level with Ann being my partner.
  2. The quiet setting is appealing and I will integrate well with the herd as long as there are no bullies.
  3. I need a lot of support in the integration. I want to walk the perimeter with Ann and have her visualize me meeting the herd.  I need time to be separate from the herd and observe them.
  4. Take it slow. I need some time to say goodbye here.

Here is what Sis said when Jenny talked to her:

Sis, wise elder lead mare.

Dude’s energy seems open and loving and he may just help bring some balance into the herd.  I would want a slow introduction to make sure that it would work and time to set the boundaries.   I’m not ready to give up being lead mare.  And it needs to happen at the right time, not rushed before everyone is ready.    I suggest a process to use to help us prepare the herd for changes.  You could use Reiki and visualization before he comes to help set boundaries, expectations and do spiritual introductions.  Imagining how you want it to look, feel and everyone to behave.

Late summer sometime later:  Ann and Jeanne made the decision to go forward with the move based on what Sis and I communicated.   Clearly Sis and I are on the same page J.  I guess humans to have to guide some of the process or it won’t happen.  Actually we are best at being partners if humans let us.  I will start the process of saying goodbye and hope Ann soon tells the humans here so they can say goodbye too.

I can tell Ann talked to Susan here at Shadow Creek to let her know that I will be moved  because she is stressed about losing me and the trainers are too.   I have been such an important part of the lesson program here.  I am consistent and reliable. There is no point in being modest!.   I hope she tells the students soon, so they have time to tell me goodbye.

Everyone is so sad I’m leaving.  The young kids give me big hugs and groom me especially nicely.  One even said she would never let her mom wash her riding pants since they have my hair on them.  The date for me to leave has not been established since Susan needs some time to find another lesson horse.

Early fall:  Ann talked to me today to let me know that Deah (my favorite trainer) will trailer me to my new home a week from today.  Deah is so good with me and will help me be comfortable on the ride.  I will start to say goodbye to the other horses now and prepare myself to leave.

Check back next time for my perception of the moving day!

Published by annromberg

Animal Healer, Reiki Master, Leadership Coach

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